|Women are killing themselves to look like this.|
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In case you don't think idolizing the perfect body is real, just go on Pinterest. I LOVE Pinterest, but at least once a day I see someone pin a quote that says, "Somebody busier than you is running right now." Guilt much? There's the Victoria's Secret model-esque pictures with the caption, "Eat for the body you want, not the one you have," and another similar body with the phrase, "What you eat in secret you wear in public," inscribed on it. Or I see women post impossibly perfect bodies for 99% of us with the caption, "Inspiration."
You might say this is normal, healthy even. But did you know that there are websites that tout anorexia and bulimia as healthy, and they do this very same thing? They post pictures of incredibly thin women to inspire (read: guilt and shame) normal girls into taking extreme measures to look like their "thinspiration." This made headlines earlier this summer after the Royal Wedding when images of Kate (or, Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge) and her sister Pippa Middleton made frequent rounds on those websites.
|Kate is gorgeous; whether she has |
this body from healthy means or
not doesn't matter as much as
ensuring that our standard is
not trying to be her.
Baby Needs A Diet?
When I was 220 or so pounds my senior year of high school I was at the home of my friend Emma. A little girl named Esther, one of our youth pastor's daugthers, was there and we were in Emma's room as she changed her shirt. Esther was about 2 and a half years old, and she stared at Emma. Emma was so thin (genetics, in her case) that she wasn't allowed to donate blood because she was always well under the weight requirement. She was the least pretentious girl you'd ever meet, so it wasn't a pride thing on her part. But, tragically, Esther pulled up her shirt, rubbed her hand on her healthily bloated toddler belly, and, with tears in her eyes, said over and over, "Essie needs flat tummy. Essie needs a diet."
You might think I made this up or exaggerated for flair. I wish I did. It is crucial that we take these issues seriously; I mean not to judge Esther's mom, but Esther learned those behaviors somewhere and I do recall her rather thin mom berating herself for struggling to get baby weight off quickly after their third child. I remember wondering what she thought of me, since I was a good 90 pounds larger than her at the time without giving birth to three children. Since I looked up to my youth pastor's wife, it caused me to believe that Jesus thought I was gross and that he would only love me if I could "love him enough" to fix myself and lose weight and exercise like a fiend. Tragically, little 2 year old Esther was receiving the same message from her mom.
What are we saying to our daughters when we lament over our "horribly fat" bodies? What standard are we setting for our sons and their future wives when we refuse to rest in our beauty as Christ created us and teach them that the only real beauty is looking like the women on the covers of magazines?
The Porn Standard for our Children?
|May my husband and I teach our |
wonderful and inquisitive boy
biblical truths about beauty.
So, today we are reminded about the relevance of body image and how crucial it is that we seek Jesus in these matters. Tomorrow I will dig into What the Bible has to say--we're finally getting into the good stuff! But worry not; if you enjoy my anecdotal ways then rest assured that they shall not wane.