I'm not much of a girly-girl. I mean, get me not wrong, I don't like to be dirty. I'll practically crash my car trying to get some previously unnoticed dirt out from under a fingernail (ok, not really, but humor me). I hate wearing shoes but even more I hate walking around my kitchen and having anything on my feet. I literally just shuddered.
Any Parks & Rec fans get that reference? Sigh. Yet another reason I cannot wait for fall! But I digress.
Moving on. So the thing is, a lot of random bits here and there have added up to me feeling quite inadequate in my femininity. For one, I finally decided to join Pinterest. Hello, I love it. You can see my boards if you are a member (and if not, email me--I have invites! The address is top left, just under my "about me"). The deal is, I thought it was just for femme ladies who love to post pictures of their favorite ingenious shabby chic creations. I am loving using it for food, some craft ideas for when Rog gets older, homemade gifts that are more up my alley--picture in a mason jar with oil? Sign me up!
|Such a FANTASTIC and personal, lovely gift idea!|
|She's adorable. She's so not me, though.|
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|These Louboutin's are SUPER cute...|
and once again, super not me.
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Now, as an aside, I'm not saying that will never be me. I am thinking about trying to learn to sew and being more crafty because it actually sounds appealing and I always surprise myself and create things that I didn't know I was capable of. So, if I open an Etsy shop I'm not saying you should panic and think I've sold out!
The tragedy, though, is that I sat here feeling like junk. I asked my husband if it's bad, if I should make an intentional effort to be more feminine and if I need to find a way to make my blog profitable, as in actual money, and if I should have cuter hair and make our home all design blog worthy, etc.
Praise Jesus for that man, he said, "No! If the Spirit is moving in you to be more intentional with some things then heed him and work that out, but don't you dare compare yourself to other women and define your femininity, or summarize it as a lack thereof, by their style and their appearance and their calling and their talents."
|I love those two, and we all love our Seahawks!|
This was a few weeks ago, at practice.
|Best birthday gift ever: last year I got that jersey and|
I'm holding the proof of tix to my first ever
|For those who don't remember, one of|
my baby showers for Roger was
ladies only, but it was a football
theme. That jersey, as seen on
Roger with his daddy above,
was the first article of clothing
we ever bought for him!
As to crafty and stylish things, perhaps I'll find a real penchant for creating something, or I'll be blessed with a time period where I am inspired and the means come to do some redecorating in our home. Maybe I'll even find a style with regards to clothes--my current "style" is does it fit and look good and is it cheap? Done. Praise God, my husband's literal favorite thing to see me wear is my yoga pants and, to be blunt, any top that makes my chest look nice without showing it off to everyone else. That's my favorite type of outfit to wear, so praise Jesus :)
I won't even lie to you--I'd much, much rather spend money on something sports related (as seen in the photos above, but we also LOVE Mariners games!) or electronic treats or stuff for my son or good, healthy, organic (read: more expensive) food than shoes and jewelry and trendy clothes, even if it's inexpensive thrifty finds. It's just not my thing. And that's ok! I'm no less a woman, no less feminine. The Bible speaks of a woman with a gentle and quiet spirit, and my husband consistently tells me that the longer he's known me the quieter and gentler and more godly my spirit has become (again, could I have done any better? No way! Love that man!) and I don't have trendy style, I only do my hair and make-up occasionally, and rarely do we buy home decor.
As for my character, I love what 1 Peter 3:1-6 has to say:
Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.
I'm accountable to Jesus, per the above passage, not for my external style but for how I conduct myself and honor my husband, how I conduct myself toward him and toward others. Styles and trends die and become antiquated--and not in the current trendy way--quicker than you can refinish that old armoire, but a gentle and quiet spirit is imperishable. Not only that, in God's sight it's very precious. I long to be found very precious before God in that way!
In sum, I embrace that Jesus defines me by my belonging to him and fulfilling my calling to love and serve those aforementioned. It's ok to want to change and grow in terms of craftiness and stylishness as the spirit leads, but Jesus is not disappointed in me--nor is anyone else who matters--if I'm never a fashion inspiration to others. It's really ok. I have to learn to be ok with it when I wish I were cuter and stylish-ier (yup, made that up) but there is no femininity meter in which I am subpar for my lack of an Etsy shop, not to mention the void of necessary talent to have one. And I can keep Pinteresting and reading inspirational blogs, but my comparative lack means nothing. Praise God!